My Philosophy on the Gym, Cell Phones, and “Looking Cool” in 2014.
So here’s my thing: people are too worried about being cool to even care about being friendly anymore.
Take the gym for example. If someone even, God forbid, looks over at you, or smiles at you,
it’s awkward. Because since the other person feels like they’re almost doing something they’re not supposed to and breaking this “aloof” barrier, you feel like the whole thing is ridiculous, and therefore it gets awkward, and THEREFORE the whole thing gets blown way out of proportion.
Remember in the olden days, like in the 90s, when people didn’t have their cell phones as a barrier? Like you HAD to talk to someone, or else like pretend to file your nails and look down? You didn’t even have the OPTION of looking down at your phone.
Now it’s like people are lost in this other world that isn’t even necessarily better, instead of being present, right here right now, in the REAL world. They can say a quick hi on their cell phones, or a quick yes on tinder, but if they saw you in real life they’d just be looking down at their phones, swiping yes to you on tinder or saying a quick hi on their cell phones. Aka, they’re missing out on the real you. And what’s more, on the real THEM too.
I’ve come to the conclusion where I’m like, who cares what people think? Who honestly cares? I’d rather risk looking like a dork and smile and wave hello to someone, rather than pretend to be on my phone when I don’t even want to be.
There’s a difference between doing things you REALLY want to do, and doing things because they’re cool. And I think way too many people these days are just focused on looking cool. But I’m over here waving like, come on guys! It’s fine to TALK and look up, and wave at people. Since when did keeping to yourself become cool? Someone needs to explain this new societal concept to me, because, I don’t get it. And honestly? I’m not sure if I even want to.
Let’s be clear: I love my iPhone. I love talking on it when it’s easy and convenient and I’m bored and it’s necessary. But I will never be one of those people with my nose buried in my phone SO MUCH that I trip over my own feet on the treadmill. Or almost get hit by a car because I’m not watching the crosswalk. There are two different worlds out there. And I think it’s super important to be a part of each.
And like the Kaskade song says, “don’t be fooled by your emptiness, because there is so much more room for happiness.”
Next time you see someone, whether it’s someone you know, or a stranger walking down the street, look up from your textathon and wave and smile at them! It’ll make their day. I promise.